As always, I hope you’re all well and safe and that you’re well on your way back to some kind of normality.
Today, I wanted to write a bit about something really important and I’d say it has been one of the most important life skills I’ve learned and realized – especially going through these past two years since my accident and the start of the COVID-19 pandemic.
Let’s get into it, shall we?
Why Are You So Special?
For a long time, I’ve been dealing with some sh*t, and I know there are people out there going through tougher times than what I’ll probably every face in my life. I’m lucky enough to have been born in a country (Denmark) that almost never face things we see in other countries.
I don’t know if you’ve ever felt like this? Ever felt like your problems just aren’t “big” or “bad” enough? Why would anyone care about other people’s problems? I’ve been beating myself for a long time whenever I’ve felt like this and I’ve sometimes been digging that pity hole deeper and deeper every day – and felt even worse about it.
Up until recently that was my mentality – and what a mentality to have towards yourself, eh?
The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck
As mention above, I’ve been going through a rough time and I know I’m not alone. Yes, I did feel sorry for myself and yes, I did feel like my problems were the biggest problems in the world. Looking back, I’ve now realized that these problems, in fact were the biggest problems in MY world – but why did I keep digging my pity hole and feel worse and worse about my feelings and daily actions?
I’ve been getting back into reading. Like, a lot of reading. And the most recent book was called “The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck”, written by Mark Manson and it’s basically a book about how you can optimize your life by avoiding the norm of “positive thinking”.
“Life is essentially an endless series of problems. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of another.”Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life
This book is a very controversial book in many ways, as it’s literally telling you the facts of life in a way that people normally sugarcoat. The quote above is one of the many quotes that really opened my eyes. Why? Because it made me realize that I keep digging these pity holes whenever I have bad days or times in my life. I literally fix my mental stress by avoiding it and getting angry at myself doing so.
Anyway, I could keep talking about this book, because it has literally changed my life and I wish I could thank Mark Manson personally, but he’ll have to settle with a post on my page. The key thing to take away from this is the life skill that brought you all here – so keep reading.
Allow Yourself To Have Bad Days
Yep. That’s the skill, or maybe we should call it a mentality towards life and how you look at yourself whenever you feel down, having a bad day or going through a tough time.
Now, you might think – “was that it?” – and the answer to that is yes, but let me elaborate a bit, because it’s not just about accepting the bad days or times.
It’s also about realizing why and when you have a bad time. Make time to make sure that you know why you have a bad time. It sounds like a cliché, I know, but it’s so important. I actually can’t stress enough how important that is. When you start realizing the “why’s” and “when’s”, then you can start working on accepting that it’s a part of life and try to come up with a solution and better yourself mentally.
The most important thing is to accept that you’ll have bad days. That everybody has bad days. It’s not the end of the world and you don’t have to be positive 24/7 – that’s probably even more stressful than just letting off some steam and anger once in a while.
It’s so hard to write about things like this. I still feel it’s very taboo and I still don’t feel comfortable talking to other people about it, which is why this post it even hard to write down – which is insane, because we all know it’s such a big problem of the modern day world that we all live in.
I want you to learn how to accept that being human isn’t always about positive thinking and everything being perfect. It sucks to be down and it sucks to go through tough times, but we all need to learn, adapt and grow from it and figure out how to become a better version of ourselves.
Do you agree with my opinions mentioned in this post? I’d love to hear from you. If you have any other “solution” to our human problems, please feel free to leave a comment and I’ll get back to you as soon as possible.
Until then, take care of yourself and take care of each other,